What makes Indian marriage system different from that of other countries? In other countries, if a boy loves a girl, the boy will propose the girl. If the girl accepts, they spend some times in understanding each other. Going for night-out parties, dating and introducing to each others’ parents are done here. If all goes well thereafter, they’ll get married. There is not much involvement of parents.
But in Indian marriage system, a boy cannot propose a girl and marry right away. Boy’s parents and grandparents should accept the girl. Girl’s parents and grandparents should accept the boy. Boy’s parents and grandparents should meet that of girl. Girl’s parents and grandparents should meet that of boy. The boy and girl can proceed if their parents get along well.
In marriage system of other countries, love comes usually before marriage. But in Indian marriage system, love usually comes only after marriage.
In classic Indian marriage system love didn’t have place. It was all about compatibility. But now love is getting pronounced in the system as Indians get more and more exposed to systems of other countries.
In this book ‘The Full Moon Bride’ Shobhan Bantwal has brought ordeals and confusion when love comes in Indian marriage where actual societal demand is compatibility. The author being an Indian brought up in west, she has blended the positive sides of Indian marriage with that of west and crafted a good story out of it.
Sometimes to prove what you’re presented by society and tradition isn’t what you want, you often have to lose from being yourself for some times. You can read how Siya becomes another person just to confront what she has to do and what not to do are being dictated by her parents, families and society.
But at the end see what the weight of reconciliatory happiness is when what Siya desires to have is what her parents, culture and tradition want to happen in her. ‘The Full Moon Bride’ is a moving story that presents new evolving dimension to Indian marriage system.
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